The first school semester your children attend after a divorce can present challenges, because the family dynamic has changed, and a new schedule has replaced your old routine.
Children may feel confused and anxious, wondering how you and your former spouse will handle after school activities, which is why it’s so important for you to implement specific strategies to help make this transition more seamless.
Obtain An After School Activity Schedule After Your Divorce
Obtain the activity schedule for the upcoming school year so that you and your former spouse can plan which events you can both attend, and which events conflict with work commitments.
Make sure that at least one of you attends every activity so that your child will always have one parent present.
Be prepared to change that schedule, however, because your children may tryout for a sport or join another activity later in the year, which will create new demands on your time.
Determine Seating Arrangements
Not all divorces are amicable, so if there is lingering tension or resentment, it’s best that you and your former spouse figure out where you will sit at specific activities. Inform your former spouse where you will sit, and most importantly, explain to your children where you will be seated so they can find you during the event.
If your divorce was friendly, this may not be an issue and you may actually decide that sitting together is not a problem.
Keep Your Issues Out of the Activities
Regardless of whether your divorce was amicable or contested, there may still be disagreements between you and your former spouse about certain issues.
Avoid bringing up these issues at your children’s after school activities.
Remember, these events are all about your children, so hashing out disagreements between you and your former spouse should take place in private.
You and your former spouse must determine to keep your feelings about each other, or about some other issue of contention out of the sphere of activities involving your children.
Your children want to see a united family front when they are playing sports, taking part in a school play, or performing in a music recital.
Why You Need A Lawyer In A Divorce
Even amicable divorces require the services of a family lawyer, because no matter how friendly things are, you still need to ensure that your rights are protected. This is especially true when it comes to issues such as child custody and child visitation. You may have worked out an agreement without going to court, but you need a lawyer to review the terms to ensure there are no red flags that could affect you in the future.
The team at The Law Office of Eric C. Cheshire P.A. has been handling all aspects of divorce for more than 25 years. In fact, because we exclusively deal with family law issues, we have the type of expertise you need to obtain the best settlement possible. Please call us today at 561-655-8844 to discuss your case.